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Virtual meetings: Relationship Is Still the Most Important Element

Posted by Charlie Walker

Jun 24, 2014 4:48:00 PM

The rules of running meetings have changed! Organizations and teams are spread out more than ever. Online, or virtual meetings, save costs; help bring busy, dispersed employees together, and are convenient for everyone.

One thing that hasn’t changed: The relationships managers establish, bonds they build, and bridges they create still form the foundation for productive engagement. Relationships are necessary for success – no matter where meeting participants are located or how they’re reached.

With that in mind, there are 5 of sensible steps that make virtual meetings extremely beneficial for everyone – including the manager.


  • Create the meeting room (link), confirm the room is ready
  • Email attendees with purpose in subject line; provide link, duration and technical details
  • Rehearse; learn the tools and click on everything!
  • Show attendees their tools and how to participate
  • Keep it lively: a web site share, a poll, or whiteboard activity

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  • Promise to start and end on time
  • Open with the purpose and time frame
  • Clarify the key issues and goals
  • Encourage an open environment and participation


  • Frequently summarize discussion
  • Remind yourself digital messages are still received on an individual level.
  • Resist telling others what you want; instead express a genuine interest in what they want
  • Work to attract others to your point of view rather than push them. As Dale Carnegie puts it: Show you’re genuinely interested in other people
  • Examine the purpose of communications. People are more likely to embrace messages that offer mutual benefit
  • Show respect for the opinions of others and disagree in an agreeable way
  • People will detect your smile, even on social networks. Your voice is your smile. Attend to your words, tone and display of emotion
  • Know and remember other peoples’ names as a key to your success. Hearing their name is the sweetest and most important sound in any language, Dale Carnegies points out
  • When you hear a name, fix it in your mind with the person you have met. Write it down, concentrate and focus on its visual impression


  • Make digital messages meaningful by removing a personal agenda; do this by talking in terms of other people’s interests
  • Resist agreeing with someone else’s critical message. The object of that criticism could someday be linked to your success
  • Remember people feel that written words are permanent. Avoid writing reactionary emails, tweets, texts or posts. If you feel upset or frustrated, calm yourself before communicating to anyone. Digital media creates a permanent record

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  • Give people what they want most —to be heard and understood. Listen effectively and consistently to build your personal power to change the hearts and minds of others
  • Listening builds a solid bridge for lasting connections; let the others do most of the talking
  • Remember it’s not about you – it’s about them. One way: Let someone else feel an idea or solution is theirs
  • Action springs from what we fundamentally desire. When we understand the core desires of others, we have the heart to influence them to action


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Topics: Virtual Training, Personal Influence, leadership, Effective Meetings

Emotional Leadership Influence

Posted by Dan Heffernan

Nov 4, 2013 4:43:21 PM

Any self-made billionaire can teach a few lessons. Here's one you can’t afford to pass up!
A home-town entrepreneur used his credit card to build his idea into a hugely successful payroll and HR outsourcing enterprise, Paychex. I’d been hired to lead the e-learning team and the first task was to build a new online course whose goal was to teach sales reps how to sell retirement plans through the use of typical client scenarios.
We were asked to present a demo of the course beta to our founder and CEO, Tom Golisano. It was my first interaction with him and was anxious to know his thoughts as he watched the laptop images we were projecting on the otherwise sterile conference room wall.
I didn’t have to wait long. Tom quickly asked to see how we intended to present the benefits of retirement plans to business owners. We displayed the part of the course that covered features and benefits, where he saw the phrase "maximize your retirement income." He then asked a question that my team later told me had them shaking in their boots.
"Where did you get the information you included in the course?" We told him we had interviewed top performing sales reps and managers. He asked for names, which we provided. He nodded his approval as he heard names of people who had helped build the business. He pondered a moment. Then he asked another question, "Do you really think people buy retirement plans to maximize their retirement income?"
At this point I had to take one for the team. "Yes, Tom, I do think so, but what are we missing here?" His response will stay with me always. "I think people invest in retirement plans so they can buy gifts for their grandchildren."
He had instantly humanized our environment and our purpose, and the room grew silent. "Makes sense, Tom, so you’re saying we should appeal to emotion rather than logic here?" He answered with another question, "Don’t you think that’s how we make most of our buying decisions?"
I got to know quite a bit about Tom that day. I found him patient, considerate, thoughtful, and, as usual, demanding of a high standard. It was a fine example of the principled leadership that had contributed to his success.
Dale Carnegie said influence is about "arousing in the other person an eager want." If doing that well eludes you most of the time, remember to make an authentic appeal to emotion. We tend to rely on logical considerations in our effort to persuade, but the decision to buy is propelled by emotion. So it’s my turn to ask you a question. When was the last time something you said made a group of grown men and women in a conference room choke back misty eyes? 
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Topics: Emotional Intelligence, Virtual Training, Personal Influence, leadership

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